Amber Rae: Hell Yes! Or No

Amber Rae is a passion catalyst, doer, thinker and creator who follows her heart and challenges conventional wisdom. She once quit her stable job, sold her car and belongings, gave all but 12 outfits to charity and jumped on a plane to New York with one suitcase, a laptop, and a dream. Soon after the move she discovered her life mission which is to inspiring people. Amber dreams of world in which everyone is fulfilling their full potential, fearlessly giving their gifts to the world, and living their own ideal life.

After years of working with big brands and people like Apple, Seth Godin and Derek Sivers she formed her own guiding beliefs on why and how to life her live:

Why vs. What: Why inspires. Why makes others believe. No one cares what you do, they care why you do it.

Make More Decisions: The best way to learn is to do. Act now. Making a mistake is better than not making a decision.

Hell Yes! Or No: Inspired by Derek Sivers, when deciding whether to do something, if I feel anything less than “Wow! Amazing! Absolutely! Hell yes!” – then my answer is no. I’ve found that when I stop chasing the wrong things, I give the right things a chance to catch me.

Trust Your Gut: Your gut is a signal. Don’t analyze it. Listen to it. It will help you discover your true passions and natural talents.

Everything is Connected, Love Accordingly: Instead of asking, “What can I get from life?”, see what happens when you ask, “What can I give?”

Focus on Abundance: Examples of abundant thinking = there is plenty of money out there and I’ll always have enough. There are so many fish in the sea and the perfect man is out there for me. Examples of scarcity thinking = I’m scared I’ll run out of money. I’m afraid I’m not good enough for him/her. Focus on Abundance.

Break Rules that Don’t Matter: I don’t have to live how others expect me to. Challenge norms. Shape your world, don’t adapt to it. Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.

Modify on the Fly: Embrace unpredictability and be flexible in the pursuit. Live for the question and experience the answer.

Let Go of Sunk Costs: The law of sunk costs says that nothing leading up to today matters in the decision you’ll make tomorrow. For example: the pre-med student who has one semester left takes a class and realizes he does not want to be a doctor. There’s no way. It doesn’t feel right. Does he finish the semester and get the piece of paper? Or, does he stop and go find what he loves? Law of Sunk Costs say that he stops and discovers his love.

Militant Transparency: In communicating any decision, ask “How can I be as honest and transparent as possible?” We cannot control how other people react to what we say and do, but we can control how we act and behave.

By Rainer Falle